The Struggle of Feeling Undervalued and How to Overcome It

The Bitter Taste of Being Undervalued

This week's topic touches a nerve that most of us have felt at some point in our lives: the feeling of being undervalued. Whether at home, in relationships, or in the workplace, this sensation can gnaw at our self-esteem and happiness.

Worse yet, when these feelings go unchecked, they can develop into resentment and even anger. So how do we combat feeling undervalued? Surprisingly, the journey starts with appreciating and valuing yourself.

The Power of Self-Appreciation: Start With You!

Feeling appreciated is like a warm hug for the soul. But before seeking validation from others, start with appreciating yourself. You are the one person you can always count on to give yourself the respect and value you deserve.

What's the secret sauce to achieving this mindset? Marie Forleo has an answer in her transformative book, "Everything is Figureoutable."

Book Recommendation: "Everything is Figureoutable" by Marie Forleo

This book is a must-read for anyone grappling with feelings of inadequacy or feeling undervalued. Marie Forleo delves into a myriad of topics, from imposter syndrome to the art of making progress instead of striving for perfection.

The central tenet is that you can figure out anything if you set your mind to it. Investing in this book is like investing in a future where you value and appreciate yourself more.

Must-Listen: "Living Fully Alive" Podcast by Mary Hyatt

If you prefer auditory learning, Mary Hyatt’s podcast, "Living Fully Alive," is a great alternative. In one enlightening episode titled 'Getting to the Root of Your Triggers,' Mary discusses the emotional triggers that often set off irrational reactions within us.

By understanding and owning these triggers, we can gain a fresh perspective on our emotional landscape.

Weekly Action Tip: Take Stock of Your Value

Are you often mired in feelings of being undervalued? Remember, the issue often lies not with others, but with how you value yourself. To get out of this mindset, start by considering what unique qualities, skills, or values you bring to the table. Imagine what would be different if you weren't present in your current environment.

Remind yourself of moments when you felt valued and appreciated by others. But don't stop there—show yourself some gratitude as well. Acknowledging your own worth can serve as a beacon, inspiring others to value and appreciate you.

Becoming Your Own Best Advocate

In the struggle against feeling undervalued, your best ally is yourself. Start by fostering a sense of self-appreciation and value, and the world around you is more likely to reflect it back.

The key takeaway here is to focus on valuing yourself first before seeking external validation. When you do, you'll find that feelings of being undervalued begin to dissipate, replaced by a strong sense of self-worth and happiness.

Laura Ogilvie-Jones